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The Typical Nontraditional Student

Steacie Science and Engineering Library at Yor...Image via Wikipedia Some thoughts for today: Qualities and Some of My Ideas about Nontraditional Students.
First of all, I realize that there is not ever a "typical" anything. Every nontraditional student is unique. But sometimes I notice some trends. These opinions I have are are taken from the nontraditional students that I have met either in class face to face, in online classes, or via comments about nontraditional issues.
Here is what I have noticed.

#1. Nontrads are positive thinkers. I believe that even if the occasional nontraditional student might say he or she does NOT believe in positive thinking, he or she still exudes a positivity that can be catching. (So watch out, people around nontrads - - you might get an infectious dose of this.) Maybe the very fact that the nontraditional student is finally THERE and back at school might be the cause of this positivity. Sometimes nontrads can THINK about going back to school for years, but not do it. Then if they do follow through finally, they are pretty proud of that.
 
#2. Nontrads have a goal. And they can be focused on it, sometimes even too much. You will see them in the library, in the computer lab, and sitting at study tables a lot. If you ask them if they want to do something un-school-related, they usually say no.
The exception to this is hanging out with other nontrads at club meetings. This they usually justify as school-related because they might hear a study tip there now and then. But, to explain this lack of fun-quotient, it must be said that nontrads do have plenty of other things to do besides attending school, like work, take care of kids, etc. which does partially explain things.

#3. Nontrads are natural sharers. They love to share their experience and stories. This can rub other students the wrong way at times, especially when they have their hand up every time an instructor asks a question. I mean, OTHER students do want to answer a question now and then, and nontrads can be rather pushy about wanting to do this too much. It is very hard for nontrads to stop this behavior, but most do learn to bite their tongues eventually.
It is important to know that wanting to share stories and experiences is usually NOT meant to be one-upmanship towards younger students, despite the popular belief that it is done to brag or get on the instructor's good side. It just feels so great to be able to finally connect an experience to new learning. It is a great feeling to do this.

#4. (Most) Nontrads do want to be accepted. Many are shy, and have self-doubt about their abilities at first when they are back in school. They sometimes conpensate for this by seeming aloof. But nothing is farther from the truth in most cases. They would welcome a word of greeting from a younger student (if they are attending face-to-face classes) or, at the very least, would love it if a story or joke would continue when they enter a room. If they could talk about it, many would say they would just like to be a normal part of the class, and not treated as a parent or another teacher. This is easier wanted than accomplished with younger students, I am sure.

I got a comment from another nontraditional student once. I had mentioned that nontraditional students want to go to school and get good grades, yes, but they also would like to make friends while they are in school. "Not me!" the nontraditional student said. "All I want is to get the grade, and get out." (I paraphrase here...)

I responded that more students had told me that they wanted to feel connected. I think that some nontraditional students get connected with age-related groups or clubs at school, and some can blend in with the younger group of students.  Sometimes it all depends on the age or make-up of the students themselves.

What is your opinion? Are there qualities YOU notice about yourself as a nontraditional student, or about other nontraditional students? What makes you unique and sets you apart from younger students?

Do you think attitudes are changing because of the big influx of nontraditional students now entering high schools, colleges, and grad schools?

Let me know.

All for now - - I am nontraditionally yours,
-Betsyanne

And here are some other postings you might like:
Finding Scholarships and Grants for School
11 More Tips for Success (for nontrads)
Don't drop out of school, older nontrad student!
Nontrads and younger friends, and
Just for nontrads: how to make friends in college



Some (more) Nontrad links: The Nontrad site and blog Join Nontrads on Facebook Nontrads on Yahoo Nontrads on Twitter
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School is more than just tests and grades... The Friendship Factor

What makes for a GREAT school experience?

I think it's more than just making the grade, and getting a diploma or certificate. It is the people you meet that can make such a difference in having an OK experience and a great one. And sometimes you can make real friends while you are going back to school.

I know I made some great friends when I went back to school. Some I got to know in study groups, and others I just talked to across the aisle or online. Even my online classes sometimes had everyone fill out a profile about themselves, which made getting to know each other even easier.

Of course, it helps if there is already a group at your school that is full of other nontraditional students, who (like you) are going back to school after a break. Maybe you both have kids, or both have other responsibilities, jobs, or other things in common. That can make it easier to connect or have something to talk about.

But it is also possible to make friends with people a LOT younger than yourself. Try listening more than you talk. This can be very difficult in some classes. It is hard not to want to share some experiences that other students haven't been alive enough time to have had. But you do get to know the younger students in your face-to-face classes better when you "sit on your hands" and don't always be the only one raising your hand to discuss things.

So... start or join an on-campus group, email your fellow students if you are in an online-only class, offer to meet if that is possible, start a study group or just talk before class sometimes. You will be very glad you did, and can make some wonderful, lasting friendships that way.


Find out more:
Make a study group:
How to make friends in college
Study groups for nontraditional students
Forming a non-traditional student group
How to make friends as an older student (a Squidoo page)

All for now,
-Betsyanne

Some of my links!
The Nontrad site and blog
The Betsyanne page and blog
My Squidoo Pages and referral